For over a decade, Julie Lalonde, an award-winning advocate for women’s rights, kept a secret. Fleeing intimate partner violence at age 20, Julie was stalked by her ex-partner for over ten years, rarely mentioning it to friends, let alone addressing it publicly. The contrast between her public career as a brave champion for women with her own private life of violence and fear meant a shaky and exhausting balancing act. Lalonde's story challenges the ways we understand trauma and resilience.